Difference between Acquaintance, Friends & Bestfriends

Have you ever been in that situation where you are just so desperate for help and you did ask but your friend just failed to deliver? You try to not get it over your head and try to convince yourself there MUST be some reason why a proper notification of telling you why can't they help isn't received but you can’t help but get disappointed about it because they let you hanging? If you are, then welcome to the cub... I don’t know why but it’s been bothering me a lot... I really hate to point out that when I ask it means I NEED IT... not just because I ask for fun... I would go to an extent to my friends and most of them don’t even return half of it. Of course I am not expecting for something in return. But I do expect that they would have my back in my time of need. Of course not all of my friends do this. Some do came through. Like really, really came through. For these few people in particular, you know who you are. And I can’t thank you enough. At most, it’s you who had been there when I was at my lowest. That’s why I always include you when I am at my highest. It is these kinds of people who had made and still is making my life a lot more bearable. And on the other side of the fence, they never really know my problems. They only see the tip of the iceberg. These are the kinds of people who I call my who-ha friends. Honestly, I did mentioned to few friends that I categorize the people I know into few levels or groups.

Level 1 being the lowest and level 4 being the highest.

Level 1: Hi-Bye

Description: I vaguely know you, seen your face but most probably already forgotten your name. Has no significance in my life what so ever until we are linked by fate on some kind of situation that could elevate your level to acquaintanceship. In this level, I figuratively have MILLIONS of people on hi-bye basis.

Level 2: Acquaintance

Description: I know you, remember your name, and don’t really have an effect on my life except for some part like a school project, a book you borrowed... oh no, wait scratch that. You have to be my friend to be borrowing my books. Yes where were we? Ah yes, school project, clubs and society’s project, you know those things that require you to interact with people you've never spoken to unless it’s necessary. Yeah that’s what I categorize as acquaintance. Oh yeah, I keep these kind of people just because they MAY be of some use for me in the near future or in the long run. It depends though, which of course means, these people had been price-tagged. Here, I only have like few hundreds or so people I know.

Level 3: Friends

Description: When things kicked off really, really well during acquaintanceship, they automatically become my friends. At this level, this is where I keep all my who-ha friends in. At this level is where I will go to only a short extent of doing them favors  They affect my life directly but not direct enough to feel the pain if they leave. It’s like where the transition point where if you want out, it’s still possible. Here, I have like less than a hundred.

Level 4: Best Friend

Descriptions: When I put my friends into this level, means I’ve done more than 5 favors for them and they have done at least half of it for me in return. Of course, I don’t really count. They basically mean a lot to me. And when I say I put a price-tag on them in acquaintance, when they enter this level, they are PRICELESS. Losing them means series of crying session and I don't often do that. Oh wait. I never do that. Not until recently anyway. Come on I already call you my best friend! Even when the feeling isn’t mutual, you are being dubbed as someone who I want to share more than just my happy times. My parents basically know all about them. I talk about them to my parents’ these are the kind of people whom I’d plan to keep in contact for the next 30-60 years ahead. I’d go to the distant just to get them what they NEED. This is where things usually get complicated. Because I don't believe in telling my friends lies just so they could feel better. Honesty is the best policy. Honestly, I can’t really define what makes a person worthy of being my best friend. But to put it simple for you out there, it’s the person who has always been there for you through thick and thin. Telling you that, that boy is bad news but you still go for him and when you get your heart broken they are gonna say “I told you so” in the most “subtle” way and still sit next to you, wipe your tears away and know just the thing that could cheer you up. Here, I have only 12 of them all together, collected over the years. 2 from primary school, 5 from high school, and 5 from collage to Uni. And I love these people to bits.

Level 5(Honorary Level): Boyfriend [only applies to BOYS]

Description: this of course only applies to BOYS. *uh-duh! Thank you Captain Obvious... LOL... these level can only be achieved by those who are GUTSY enough to come up and speak up to me. If I don't feel the same way then... we can always be back to being friends. Of course it wouldn’t be the same anymore but I do still want to talk to them. But for now, after falling out of love from someone this year’s February for good, I don't have any eyes on any one. So it could be anyone’s game really. But I am on a break right now. After being constantly disappointed for the past 5 years, I want to give my heart a break. My best friends are all I need now.

Well... this was meant to be a short entry but I see myself had put an entry of 1k++ words. Oh well. Have a great day people. I hope this makes it clear on how I value the people I know.

Well, Love ya'll

Farcella. M